Question by Paul Micheals: What is the best child custody arrangement for my child?
There are many types of child custody arrangement, which one is best?
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Answer by Joe Gann
my personal opinion is for the child to be with mom if mom is of sound mind and not a risk to the child.
The dad has access whenever he wants with forward planning as not to cause problems.
That way the child is not denied access to either parent & should not have any issues when he/she has grown into an adult.
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Honestly, the one that is best is the one that you and your ex can agree upon most readily, minimizing any arguing/court fights, which is very traumatic for the child. Count yourself lucky if your ex is open to negotiation. Of course, the more active and involved BOTH parents are in their children’s lives, the better. Consider this: the courts can, and do, force parents to attend mediation sessions, and/or outright instruct parents to work out an agreement between themselves. Court custody battles take YEARS, cost tens of thousands of dollars, do enormous damage to children, and rarely give either party any clear victory. Work it out, stay calm, be open, make compromises, and insist on regular contact with your children. Put it in WRITING. Good luck.
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The one where both parents get even time with the child and even decision making opportunity concerning day to day existence. It is called joint legal and physical custody. The child does not feel alienated therefore from either parent.
speaking to a professional mediator about custody arrangements..
Whatever is best for the child. Depending on age the child might have some input. If they are older they might want to stay where they will continue in the same school. They might not like one parent because they so things that the child perceives as hurtful. A younger child needs more stability and needs to be with the parent that offers that. Depending on work schedules that might be the mom or the dad. If one works nights and the child is with day care to much the other parent should be the primary care giver. The most important thing is that both parents think about what is best for the child. They also need to be aware that this changes over the years. Both parents need to respect the other parent in front of the child and NEVER say anything negative about the other parent to the child. I have actually seen the bad mouthing going on into the 20′s and this does nothing but hurt the child. So be thoughtful and think of how you both can work together to make life best for the child.
The best child custody arrangement for the child depends on case to case basis. In some cases the ideal arrangement is to award the main custodianship to either one of the parents depending on which of the two is most qualified. This is also awarded if one of the parents is not capable of doing the responsibilities of the custodianship such as health issues and financial problems. The ideal arrangement is child shared custody to allow the child equal time and bonding with both parents.
Therefore, you have to assess first the situation. For more tips, you can read this Ezine article which I really find very useful:
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I hope you can provide the best child custody for your kids based on what is also ideal for their welfare and their own interests.
My experience is that it is best for a child to be with ONE parent the majority of school days. This switching houses every week, or every 3 days, in my case, made the child feel like they didn’t have a home of their own.
The situation that worked out best for us was that my husband had primary custody which meant that he had the final say on allthings non emergency medical such as the child’s doctor, and final say on school things like where the child went to school and what programs he was a part of at the school.
The mother had secondary custody which meant she got my step son Thursday after school until Monday morning. This should have worked out well because she had to do one night of homework, but the rest of the weekend we didn’t have to depend on her to get the homework done. They did every other week in the summer, and for extra curricular activities he could choose for 6 months and then she chose the next sports season what the child was in. They agreed on only one sport per season and that they BOTH had to bring the child to the practices and games on their weekends, but even then both parents were allowed at the games so both parents saw him pretty much every weekend, which was nice.
We ran into a problem of her bringing him late to school on Friday’s and Monday so then her visitation got reduced to friday 6pm-Sunday at 6pm for the school year, but still…it seemed to work out for the child.